February 18, 2010

This Blogging Thing...

I've come to the conclusion that I should really be using this thing more often.  I 'spose it wouldn't be a bad idea to sit down a take some time to vent on my thoughts from the day, or at least the week.

Thought for Today:  Why do guys (and girls too I guess) let their significant other control their life?

 Isn't a relationship supposed to be about compromise, both people managing to work together to attain what they want?  I thought that was how it worked but apparently I'm incorrect.  I've come across so many relationships where one person changes everything, neglects their own style wants and needs for the other person.  Why?  Will the person not like them anymore if they have a personality?  Will they hate them for wanting to spend time with other people?  Is it really the end of the world?  If your relationship would really burst into flames from this, is this really the person you want to be with?

I've seen it again and again, girls not trusting their boyfriends and boys not trusting their girlfriends.  It seems to be more often the girl not trusting the guy though.  It just doesn't make sense.  I can't see being in a relationship with someone that I don't trust at all with anyone.  

I want my boyfriend to be able to live his life, hang out with who he wants to hang out with, without wasting my time worrying about what he's doing.  I don't want, or need to keep him at my side 24/7 so that I know what he's doing every second of every day.  That's not a relationship, that's a dictatorship.  I want my boyfriend to have friends, other people that he can talk to besides me, and if they happen to be girls so be it.  

I feel like some girls just have this need to be with someone all the time, to always be in a relationship so they can have that attachment.  But what good is that attachment if you don't mean it?  How is that fair to the other person?  It's not.  It's only fair to you, and that's not fair at all.